Legit, right now – let go of it.
You might just find that your chaos may simmer down.
I am the first person to crumble into a million pieces when comparison creeps in. I always need that little reminder to keep consistency and focus on my own path.
Your path is your own for a reason. Understand that your struggles and accomplishments have all formed you into the beautiful and unique person you are. What you are doing is good enough. Have faith that everything you are going through will lead you to live a stronger life.
Shine on – your light is one of a kind.
2. Of things you can’t control
Which, by the way, is pretty much everything in life. You can’t control how others feel about you or their reaction toward you. What you can control is how grounded you are in who you want to be …who you are at the end of the day. Believe me when I tell you, that the people that are meant to be in your life will be. It’s often overwhelming – that sense of not having control over a situation – and if you’re anything like me, those are the moments I have full blown panic attacks. Be consistent in your understanding that things around you are happening just as they should be.
Specifically the avoidance of spending time alone with your thoughts. It took me a long time to spend time alone with me, myself and I. With the person I spent years forming. It wasn’t until I essentially had no other option but to be there for myself – after heartbreak and a few years of irresponsible coping mechanisms that I began paying more attention to my own well-being and mental state.
It’s scary to be alone with everything that you have gone through, I get that, but you need this time by yourself to understand how to grow stronger. Ask yourself the tough questions and begin forming the person you love spending time with.
“Until you get comfortable with being alone, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or loneliness” – Mandy Hale
Oh my word – if there is anything that crushes me, it’s witnessing someone get upset and irritated over honestly the tiniest most irrelevant things in life.
Life is too short for you to bicker about meaningless nuances. If you care for each other – then care for each other. Understand to pick and choose your battles. If you approach everything with your guard up, chances are you won’t be able to see the positives that surround you.
Speak kindly to yourself and to other people. How will other’s appreciate all of the beauty within you when you won’t even appreciate it yourself.
Your mindset is everything.
Having an attitude of gratitude is a total game-changer – try it, you’ll see!
5. E X P E C T A T I O N S
Alongside nitpicking – and ultimately I think one of the most important items on this list is letting go of expectations.
BUT YOU’VE GO TO LET GO OF THE RIGHT EXPECTATIONS.
Hold onto expectations that show you respect and love in relationships…but please, please, please get rid of the expectations that others magically understand what you are thinking, planning, doing and expressing.
There are no two people on this planet that are identical in their thought processes simply because our lives and experiences have moulded us individually.
I simply can’t, for example, expect my husband to understand certain aspects of my own grief process in losing my father when we don’t approach grief at face-value in the same manner. What I can do is maintain patience and understanding that even though I may be hurting, it may take some time for us to communicate in a way that is healthy for both of us. He after all is going through his own grief process in losing a father-in-law. It takes time to understand each other. My parents were married 31 years and they were still learning things about each other until the very end.
Expectations hold you to a standard. That I totally understand and even encourage. However, a fine line exists -expectations that result in nit-picking or hyper-analyzing the actions and words of everyone around you do more harm than good.
Understanding that sometimes the problem is with us – with our anxiety; that sometimes we shouldn’t just take the words of our anxious thoughts at face- value. Be critical of your own thought process, while letting go of actions that may be harming your mental stability in the long run. Don’t think that you’re alone in this – I’m the first person that needs daily reminders for everything on this list – and yes it’s HARD WORK. Ultimately I hope that at least one thing on this list resonated with the chaos you may be experiencing and if that’s the case – please, LET IT GO!
Always remember that you’re not alone, and we’re all in this battle of life. You are competent enough to face your turmoil head-on. You just gotta take the first step.
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